If You Cannot Finance Your Own Wedding, You Do Not Deserve to Marry – Frank Gashumba

Gashumba believes that depending on others to pay for important life events shows that a man is not ready for marriage.

He highlighted how common it has become for people to ask for money at every stage—from the first visit to the introduction and finally the wedding itself.

He even joked that some couples might soon start asking for money to fund their honeymoon.

Expressing frustration, Gashumba pointed out that even people who have not been in touch for years often reach out for financial help to cover wedding costs.

He questioned why someone would go ahead with a wedding they can’t afford, suggesting that those individuals should let someone with more financial means marry the woman instead.

He stressed that relying on others for such events reflects a lack of readiness for marriage.

Gashumba also had a message for women: if your man needs help from others to pay for your wedding, it is a sign that you may have made a poor choice in a partner.

He believes a man should be able to handle these costs on his own.

Gashumba stated that he would never ask others to contribute to his wedding, noting that his own ceremony would only have 20 guests.

He argued that weddings are a luxury, not a necessity, and urged people to plan events they can afford instead of depending on others for funding.

Additionally, he criticized couples who get upset when people refuse to contribute.

According to Gashumba, when people do contribute money, the wedding shifts from being a personal affair to a “community wedding.”

He remarked that when others chip in, it no longer feels like a celebration just for the couple; instead, it seems that everyone who helped now has a claim to the bride.