What Not to Do or Say on a First Date (If You Want a Second One)
So, you finally landed that first date. Great! Now the goal is simple: do not blow it. First impressions matter, and sometimes, it is not about what you do, but what you should not do.
Here is a no-pressure guide to help you avoid common first-date mistakes and keep the vibes going strong.
1. Do Not Turn It into a Therapy Session
You do not need to unpack your childhood trauma or your last breakup over dinner. Keep the heavy stuff for later dates. No one wants to feel like they are in a counseling session on the first meet-up.
2. Avoid Talking Money, Politics or Religion
These topics can get real awkward, real fast. Asking how much someone makes or diving into heated political debates is a sure way to kill the mood. Keep it light.
3. No Ex Talk
Please, for the love of romance, do not bring up your ex. It makes you sound like you are not over them, and no one wants to be someone’s rebound story.
4. Phone Down, Eyes Up
Constantly checking your phone? Big no. It sends the message that you are bored or distracted. Be present and give your date your full attention. You can scroll later.
5. Too Much, Too Soon
Do not get too personal too fast. Questions like “What is your body count?” or “Do you want children?” can make someone want to fake an emergency. Take your time. This is not a job interview for a life partner.
4. Do Not Be Late
Arriving late can come off as disrespectful. If something unexpected happens, at least give a heads-up. Punctuality shows you are serious and that you value their time.
5. Do Not Be Overly Negative
Complaining about the food, the place, or your life in general is a turn-off. Positivity is attractive. Save the rants for your group chat.
6. Do Not Talk Only About Yourself
Yes, you are amazing, but let your date get a word in too. Ask questions, listen, and let the conversation flow naturally. No one enjoys a one-person show.
7. No Judgy Comments
Saying things like “You are not what I expected” or “You look different from your photographs” is rude and awkward. If you are not feeling it, be polite and graceful.
Bottom Line?
The best first dates feel like a great conversation with someone you want to know more about.
So skip the drama, stay positive, and most importantly, just be yourself (the chill version).
Who knows? Play your cards right and you might just land date number two.