When Sexual Tension Refuses to Stay Silent in Friendship

There is something about knowing that you want to have not just an emotional attachment to someone but you crave to be physical with them too. To know that beyond the emotional friendship or bond that you share, you want something more physical to get out of the way.

It’s like having a best friend of the opposite sex that you kissed once and let go. You will always want more. You will want to find out what will happen when the lights go down and your souls find solace in each other.

Sex tension is crazy. It brews the most idiotic fights. It’s the anger that comes with why the other person is getting close to someone else and yet you are too scared to cross the line. Knowing what you feel and want to do could cost you the friendship that means the world to you.

Reality check; if you don’t check the sexual tension between you as friends, you are bound to lose the friendship too. Because of the too many emotions flying around, you will always find fault in whoever they choose to be with.

There is that one person you want to tell everything about your days. Your insecurities, the people you fancy being intimate with. They seem to understand your fears and never judge you. They are there for the 3:00 am phone calls but you are so scared of losing what you have if you ever cross the sexual line.

Guess what? That’s the one person that you will eventually call when that marriage is no longer working out and you are falling apart. The one person you knew you wanted and never got around the sexual tension.

Friendship will stay or even become stronger with or without the physical bit. If your personal person understands that the sexual tension must get out of the way for everything to fall in place, then go ahead and get it fixed. If you know in your heart of hearts that you might never recover from it, have it and make them your forever, or let go of the idea.

The in between doesn’t work. You can’t want to kiss them, get them hard or wet, and then come around to say you never want to cross the major line.

No one kisses the other just to moisturise their lips. You know they want you as much as you want them, they will never be okay with knowing someone else is kissing the same lips they do when they are bored.

If a friendship will last forever, get rid of the sexual tension and see what remains of it. If the physical doesn’t work out, sit down like the mature people that you are and choose to keep the friendship. Other than that, stop crossing every other physical line because the act of sex is just the icing on the cake.

Till next time, chew your best friend and maybe, just maybe they could be the love that you are so much looking for.